登陆注册
46400700000096

第96章 PART 9How To Keep From Worrying About Criticism(7)

Here is an astonishing and tragic truth:millions of people who wouldn’t dream of wasting dollars go right on wasting and squandering their energy with the recklessness.

What is the answer to this nervous fatigue?Relax!Relax!Relax!Learn to relax while you are doing your work!

Easy?No.You will probably have to reverse the habits of a lifetime.But it is worth the effort,for it may revolutionise your life!William James said,in his essay “The Gospel of Relaxation”:“The American over-tension and jerkiness and breathlessness and intensity and agony of expression...are bad habits,nothing more or less.”Tension is a habit.Relaxing is a habit.And bad habits can be broken,good habits formed.

How do you relax?Do you start with your mind,or do you start with your nerves?You don’t start with either.You always begin to relax with your muscles!Let’s give it a try.To show how it is done,suppose we start with your eyes.Read this paragraph through,and when you’ve reached the end,lean back,close your eyes,and say to your eyes silently:“Let go.Let go.Stop straining,stop frowning.Let go.Let go.”Repeat that over and over very slowly for a minute....

Didn’t you notice that after a few seconds the muscles of the eyes began to obey?Didn’t you feel as though some hand had wiped away the tension?Well,incredible as it seems,you have sampled in that one minute the whole key and secret to the art of relaxing.You can do the same thing with the jaw,with the muscles of the face,with the neck,with the shoulders,the whole of the body.But the most important organ of all is the eye.Dr.Edmund Jacobson of the University of Chicago has gone so far as to say that if you can completely relax the muscles of the eyes,you can forget all your troubles!The reason the eyes are so important in relieving nervous tension is that they burn up one-fourth of all the nervous energies consumed by the body.That is also why so many people with perfectly sound vision suffer from “eyestrain”.They are tensing the eyes.

Vicki Baum,the famous novelist,says that when she was a child,she met an old man who taught her one of the most important lessons she ever learned.She had fallen down and cut her knees and hurt her wrist.The old man picked her up;he had once been a circus clown;and,as he brushed her off,he said:“The reason you injured yourself was because you don’t know how to relax.You have to pretend you are as limp as a sock,as an old crumpled sock.Come,I’ll show you how to do it.”

That old man taught Vicki Baum and the other children how to fall,how to do flip-flops,and how to turn somersaults.And always he insisted:“Think of yourself as an old crumpled sock.Then you’ve got to relax!”

You can relax in odd moments,almost anywhere you are.Only don’t make an effort to relax.Relaxation is the absence of all tension and effort.Think ease and relaxation.Begin by thinking relaxation of the muscles of your eyes and your face,saying over and over:“Let go...let go...let go and relax.”Feel the energy flowing out of your facial muscles to the centre of your body.Think of yourself as free from tension as a baby.

That is what Galli-Curci,the great soprano,used to do.Helen Jepson told me that she used to see Galli-Curci before a performance,sitting in a chair with all her muscles relaxed and her lower jaw so limp it actually sagged.An excellent practice—it kept her from becoming too nervous before her stage entrance;it prevented fatigue.

Here are five suggestions that will help you learn to relax:

1.Read one of the best books ever written on this subject:Release from Nervous Tension,by Dr.David Harold Fink.

2.Relax in odd moments.Let your body go limp like an old sock.I keep an old,maroon-coloured sock on my desk as I work-keep it there as a reminder of how limp I ought to be.If youhaven’t got a sock,a cat will do.Did you ever pick up a kitten sleeping in the sunshine?If so,both ends sagged like a wet newspaper.Even the yogis in India say that if you want to master the art of relaxation,study the cat.I never saw a tired cat,a cat with a nervous breakdown,or a cat suffering from insomnia,worry,or stomach ulcers.You will probably avoid these disasters if you learn to relax as the cat does.

3.Work,as much as possible,in a comfortable position.Remember that tensions in the body produce aching shoulders and nervous fatigue.

4.Check yourself four or five times a day,and say to yourself:“Am I making my work harder than it actually is?Am I using muscles that have nothing to do with the work I am doing?”This will help you form the habit of relaxing,and as Dr.David Harold Fink says:“Among those who know psychology best,it is habits two to one.”

5.Test yourself again at the end of the day,by asking yourself:“Just how tired am I?If I am tired,it is not because of the mental work I have done but because of the way I have done it.”“I measure my accomplishments,”says Daniel W.Josselyn,“not by how tired I am at the end of the day,but how tired I am not.”He says:“When I feel particularly tired at the end of the day,or when irritability proves that my nerves are tired,I know beyond question that it has been an inefficient day both as to quantity and quality.”If every business man would learn that same lesson,the death rate from “hypertension”diseases would drop overnight.And we would stop filling up our sanatoriums and asylums with men who have been broken by fatigue and worry.

Chapter 54

How the Housewife Can Avoid Fatigue—and Keep Looking Young

同类推荐
热门推荐
  • 霸道校草vs小甜心

    霸道校草vs小甜心

    “:陌炎澈,你个死变态,放开我……你……别乱来啊,小心我告诉爷爷"他邪魅的一笑:’怎么你现在是我女朋友,我亲亲你还不行吗?'’接着他的唇便吻了上去,——好甜
  • 我在人间渡九劫

    我在人间渡九劫

    尘世有猫,其名曰九。历九次轮回,尝八世厄果,秉自由之志,行洒脱之事,看淡前世今生,笑叹人间冷暖,守初心,溯本源。本书的主人公是一只猫,且看他如何一步步觉醒能力,成就无上因果。其内容有笑点也有泪点,小九爷将以有限的生命,为你讲述无限精彩的人间故事。
  • 蟪蛄

    蟪蛄

    城市是吃人的怪兽疾病是喝血的恶魔生在乡村不是悲哀活在城市不是幸福哪都有哪的苦爱人不易爱自己更不易他人即地狱但人生苦短,还是要负重前行
  • 反清复明双人游

    反清复明双人游

    大医院里的一名小医生--临时工王建国,无意中同自己的上司--拥有教授头衔的科主任,一起穿越到了康熙初年,并被融入民间如火如荼的反清复明运动中。两人的命运,由于性格、心态以及处事方式不同,却渐渐走向不同的两个极端,王建国甚至从历史潮流中一跃而出,掌控了几乎所有反清复明的力量,拥有了左右历史的可能······
  • 红蚁剑

    红蚁剑

    江湖传闻,一把绝世神剑能称霸武林,得人心、治百病。然、销声匿迹数十年……二十年后,一把锈迹斑斑的剑重现江湖;善恶不分,杀人灭口,涂炭生灵,就连死人的坟墓也不放过……为了天下太平,我放弃了心爱的剑,去忍受钻心的苦痛;断剑残痕,写余生你我绝情!为了它,我认识了你!若我使剑,将阳光撒在冷冷的冬晨。
  • 月之国度

    月之国度

    平凡小人物也有理想,且看小人物是如何一步步走向人生的巅峰。
  • 三道选择题

    三道选择题

    三道不同的选择题,预示了一个人的未来,在你的世界里,我们只能刺刺泪痛。
  • 九莲记

    九莲记

    九莲归一,宇宙即成!————新人新书,多多支持!!!!!!!!!!!
  • 古陆奇缘

    古陆奇缘

    今生,有太多未能实现的遗憾与梦想。离别时甚至未能与深爱的他告别,虞雪只盼望:来生,能够圆了今生未了的爱、继上今生未尽的缘。未知来生相见否,陌上却逢再少年。这是多少人的梦想,也是虞雪深藏在心底的愿望。重生之后,她这吴国小公主羽千雪,是否能够在这名曰古陆的大地上实现心愿?听过百年哀歌,耗尽千年的守候。穿越之后又几度生死的羽千雪终于明白了一件事,那就是:既然,这现实的世界存不住美好,容不下我对你的爱。那么,我就去梦中的世界等着你好了。到那时,请记住,一定要紧紧牵住我的手,再也不要松开、再也别让我独自离开了。
  • 与星同行

    与星同行

    江昕做梦也没有想到能够认识著名M男团成员何铭,他是明星,是偶像,是男神!但这仅仅只存在于电视荧幕中……一次意外,江昕认识了何铭,从此以后,江昕便打开了一扇新世界的大门。去看何铭的演唱会,去当何铭的助理,了解何铭在剧组的生活,陪着何铭参加节目,江昕发现了何铭与电视屏幕不同的一幕。当然,何铭跟着江昕也知道了自己很多没有机会触碰的事儿,比如第一次进实验室,第一次玩狼人杀。在一次次的接触中,江昕是贪念何铭的颜,但也不会想到会这么快和何铭结婚,的确,结婚也是一个意外!如果说,和明星做朋友是惊心动魄,瞠目结舌,那么嫁给明星可谓是波涛汹涌,荡气回肠了!江昕本想着先瞒着室友和实验室的师兄师姐,安安静静地完成学业。可天不随人愿,纸包不住火,该发生的还是发生了,从此作为A大里普通的不能再普通的一个学生,一跃成为了万众瞩目的焦点,毕竟和她结婚的可是何铭,多少人的偶像和男神!