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第17章 PART 2Ways to Make People Like You(6)

Jim Farley left behind him a widow and three boys,and a few hundred dollars in insurance.

His oldest boy,Jim,was ten,and he went to work in a brickyard,wheeling sand and pouring it into the molds and turning the brick on edge to be dried by the sun.This boy Jim never had a chance to get much education.But with his natural geniality,he had a flair for making people like him,so he went into politics,and as the years went by,he developed an uncanny ability for remembering people’s names.

He never saw the inside of a high school;but before he was forty-six years of age,four colleges had honored him with degrees and he had become chairman of the Democratic National Committee and Postmaster General of the United States.

I once interviewed Jim Farley and asked him the secret of his success.He said,“Hard work,”and I said,“Don’t be funny.”

He then asked me what I thought was the reason for his success.

I replied:“I understand you can call ten thousand people by theirfirst names.”

“No.You are wrong,”he said.“I can call fifty thousand people by their first names.”

Make no mistake about it.That ability helped Mr.Farley put Franklin D.Roosevelt in the White House when he managed Roosevelt’s campaign in 1932.

During the years that Jim Farley traveled as a salesman for a gypsum concern,and during the years that he held office as town clerk in Stony Point,he built up a system for remembering names.

In the beginning,it was a very simple one.Whenever he met a new acquaintance,he found out his or her complete name and some facts about his or her family,business and political opinions.He fixed all these facts well in mind as part of the picture,and the next time he met that person,even if it was a year later,he was able to shake hands,inquire after the family,and ask about the hollyhocks in the backyard.No wonder he developed a following!

For months before Roosevelt’s campaign for President began,Jim Farley wrote hundreds of letters a day to people all over the western and northwestern states.Then he hopped onto a train and in nineteen days covered twenty states and twelve thousand miles,traveling by buggy,train,automobile and boat.He would drop into town,meet his people at lunch or breakfast,tea or dinner,and give them a “heart-to-heart talk.”Then he’d dash off again on another leg of his journey.

As soon as he arrived back East,he wrote to one person in each town he had visited,asking for a list of all the guests to whom he had talked.The final list contained thousands and thousands of names;yet each person on that list was paid the subtle flattery of getting a personal letter from James Farley.These letters began “Dear Bill”or “Dear Jane,”and they were always signed “Jim.”

Jim Farley discovered early in life that the average person is more interested in his or her own name than in all the other names on earth put together.Remember that name and call it easily,and you have paid a subtle and very effective compliment.But forget it or misspell it—and you have placed yourself at a sharp disadvantage.For example,I once organized a public-speaking course in Paris and sent form letters to all the American residents in the city.French typists with apparently little knowledge of English filled in the names and naturally they made blunders.One man,the manager of a large American bank in Paris,wrote me a scathing rebuke because his name had been misspelled.

What was the reason for Andrew Carnegie’s success?

He was called the Steel King;yet he himself knew little about the manufacture of steel.He had hundreds of people working for him who knew far more about steel than he did.

But he knew how to handle people,and that is what made him rich.Early in life,he showed a flair for organization,a genius for leadership.By the time he was ten,he too had discovered the astounding importance people place on their own name.And he used that discovery to win cooperation.To illustrate:When he was a boy back in Scotland,he got hold of a rabbit,a mother rabbit.Presto!He soon had a whole nest of little rabbits—and nothing to feed them.But he had a brilliant idea.He told the boys and girls in the neighborhood that if they would go out and pull enough clover and dandelions to feed the rabbits,he would name the bunnies in their honor.

The plan worked like magic,and Carnegie never forgot it.

Years later,he made millions by using the same psychology in business.For example,he wanted to sell steel rails to the Pennsylvania Railroad.J.Edgar Thomson was the president of the Pennsylvania Railroad then.So Andrew Carnegie built a huge steel mill in Pittsburgh and called it the “Edgar Thomson Steel Works.”

The Central Transportation Company,which Andrew Carnegie controlled,was fighting with the company that Pullman owned.Both were struggling to get the sleeping-car business of the Union Pacific Railroad,bucking each other,slashing prices,and destroving all chance of profit.Both Carnegie and Pullman had gone to New York to see the board of directors of the Union Pacific.Meeting one evening in the St.Nicholas Hotel,Carnegie said:“Good evening,Mr.Pullman,aren’t we making a couple of fools of ourselves?”

“What do you mean?”Pullman demanded.

Then Carnegie expressed what he had on his mind—a merger of their two interests.He pictured in glowing terms the mutual advantages of working with,instead of against,each other.Pullman listened attentively,but he was not wholly convinced.Finally he asked,“What would you call the new company?”and Carnegie replied promptly:“Why,the Pullman Palace Car Company,of course.”

Pullman’s face brightened.“Come into my room,”he said.“Let’s talk it over.”That talk made industrial history.

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